It’s also important to remember that growth and improvement often require discomfort. The ego seeks comfort in maintaining the status quo, but real progress comes from pushing past our comfort zones and accepting that mistakes are part of the human experience. Instead of viewing correction as something negative, it should be embraced as a tool for self-betterment.
The ego is a powerful and often deceptive force within us. It shapes how we perceive ourselves and how we respond to the world around us, especially when our sense of self is challenged. One of the simplest yet most telling ways to detect the influence of the ego within us is by observing how we react when someone offers correction or criticism. If we feel offended, defensive, or irritated—regardless of whether the correction is justified or constructive—this is a clear sign that we are under the influence of what can be referred to as the “ego demon.”
This reaction arises because the ego is intrinsically tied to our sense of identity, especially when it comes to being right or maintaining control. The ego demon thrives on the need for validation, superiority, and perfection. It dislikes being questioned and sees correction as a threat to its very existence. When someone points out a mistake or suggests we are wrong, the ego perceives this as a direct attack, and the initial response is to protect itself. It does this by triggering feelings of indignation, hurt, or anger, which serve to defend the self-image we have carefully constructed.
It’s important to note that the ego’s influence often blinds us to reality. Even when the correction is delivered with kindness or in a constructive manner, the ego distorts it, making it feel like an affront. This defensiveness can manifest in various ways: dismissing the other person’s opinion, shifting blame, making excuses, or even counter-attacking with criticism of our own. In these moments, the ego demon has taken control, and instead of being open to learning or improving, we become fixated on protecting our fragile sense of pride.
However, there’s immense value in recognizing this reaction. Self-awareness is the first step toward overcoming the ego demon. When you notice feelings of offense or defensiveness arising in response to feedback, it’s an opportunity to pause and reflect. Ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way? Is there any truth in what is being said?” By doing this, you begin to separate yourself from the ego and reclaim control over your emotions and responses.
Cultivating humility is a key part of this process. Humility allows us to view correction not as an attack but as an opportunity for growth. When we approach feedback with an open mind, we are more likely to learn from our mistakes and improve. Admitting that we don’t have all the answers, that we can be wrong, and that there is always room for growth is the antithesis of the ego’s need for perfection. The more we practice humility, the weaker the ego’s grip becomes, and the more we move toward true self-awareness and personal development.
Ultimately, by recognizing and dismantling the ego’s hold on us, we allow ourselves to grow in wisdom, emotional intelligence, and resilience. The next time someone corrects you, pause before reacting. If you feel offended or defensive, recognize that this is the ego talking. By choosing humility over ego, you open the door to becoming a better, more authentic version of yourself.
